You Are SUPPOSED to Feel Your Feelings - ALL of Them!

If you’re reading this, you might be carrying pain—old grief, deep fatigue, or trauma that still lingers in your body. Maybe you’ve been pushing through, staying busy, or stuffing it down. Maybe you’re afraid that if you let yourself really feel it, it will swallow you whole. But what if feeling it is the way through?

What if letting yourself feel it all the way is the very thing that begins to free you?

Let’s talk about what happens when you finally stop running from your feelings, and instead meet them with gentleness and truth.

Why Feeling Feels Scary

Most of us were taught early on to avoid pain: don’t cry, don’t get angry, don’t make a scene. So we learned to suppress and disconnect. But avoiding emotions doesn’t make them disappear—it just buries them in the body. Like trying to hold a beach ball underwater, they don’t stay down forever. They pop up in other ways: anxiety, exhaustion, tension, irritability.

What’s hard to accept is this: those uncomfortable emotions are not bad. They’re messengers. Sadness asks to be seen. Anger says a boundary has been crossed. Fear wants to protect you. These feelings don’t make you weak—they make you human.

Still, if you’ve lived through trauma or grief, it can feel terrifying to open those doors. You might think, If I start crying, I’ll never stop. But feelings are like waves. They rise, peak, and fall. When we let them move, they don’t last as long or hurt as deeply.

Your Body Is Designed to Process Emotion

Here’s a hopeful truth: your body knows how to process feelings—if you let it. Emotions are energy in motion. When something upsets you, your brain sends signals to your body: adrenaline surges, your heart races, your muscles tense. But here’s the key—that physical reaction only lasts about 90 seconds.

If you don’t resist it, and you don’t keep feeding it with thoughts, it completes its cycle. That’s all.

What makes the pain last isn’t the feeling itself—it’s the fight against it. When we replay the story, judge the feeling, or hold our breath to keep it in, we prolong the suffering.

But when we allow the emotion to move through—when we breathe, cry, shake, or release—we help it pass.

What It Feels Like to Let the Wave Move Through

It might start as discomfort: a lump in your throat, tightness in your chest, or trembling in your belly. You might need to cry, sigh, stomp your feet, or curl up and sob. Let it happen.

After a minute or two, your body begins to settle. The intensity fades. And often, what’s left is relief. Lightness. Sometimes, even peace.

Crying actually releases stress chemicals. That’s why we often feel better afterward. Anger, when expressed in safe ways—like punching a pillow or scribbling in a journal—can bring clarity. Grief, when felt fully, comes in waves. Each time you let one roll through, it softens a little more. You don’t have to push it away. You can surf it instead.

I’ve been there myself. After losing someone I loved, I stayed numb for weeks—until a song on the radio cracked me open. I sobbed until my body shook. And afterward, I felt calmer. Lighter. Like some of the grief had finally left me. That moment taught me not to fear my feelings so much.

They didn’t break me. They freed me.

How to Let an Emotion Move Through Safely

You don’t need fancy tools. You just need presence. Here’s a gentle practice you can use any time:

• Notice what you feel. Pause. Tune in to your body. Where is the sensation? Chest? Belly? Throat?

• Name the emotion. “This is grief.” “This is anger.” Naming gives clarity.

• Breathe through it. Feel your feet on the ground. Let your breath move in and out slowly. Stay with the feeling like you would stay with a friend in pain.

• Let your body lead. Cry. Shake. Tremble. Stomp. Sigh. Let your body express what your mind can’t explain. That’s how emotion leaves.

• Soothe yourself after. When it passes, rest. Wrap up in a blanket. Drink some water. Tell yourself: I’m proud of you. You did something brave.

Your body just helped you process something heavy. That’s sacred work.

The Spiritual Side of Feeling

There is nothing wrong with you for feeling deeply. In fact, your pain is proof of your love. It means your soul is still tender, still alive.

Many people find comfort in the idea that God is close to the brokenhearted. That when you finally collapse into the tears, you’re not alone—you’re being held. Whether you call it God, Love, or simply the strength within you, something greater is there. When you feel your feelings, you’re not falling apart—you’re being remade.

Your heart is a vessel. When we seal it shut, nothing new can enter. But when we open it—even if it cracks—light gets in. And love can pour back out.

Remember what Rumi said: “The wound is where the light enters you.”

Moving Forward, One Feeling at a Time

You don’t have to feel everything all at once. You don’t have to heal in a day. But you can take one honest breath. One sigh. One tear. One 90-second wave at a time.

That’s enough.

Feeling your feelings isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. It’s what turns surviving into healing.

If it feels like too much, reach out. A friend. A journal. A therapist. Let someone witness your truth.

You are not alone.

You have already survived so much. Now, you’re learning how to let go. And as you do, the weight begins to lift. You’ll begin to feel yourself again—not just the pain, but the peace underneath it.

You are worthy of that peace. You are worthy of healing. And it begins with feeling.

Take a breath. You’ve got this.

Jen

TheHighLevelLife.com