The ONE Question to Ask That Can Change Your Life

How This One Shift Rewires Anxiety, Softens Emotional Reactivity, and Creates a More Peaceful Life

There’s a question I ask myself often. A question that has redirected my life more than once. A question that has pulled me out of fear, stress, and overthinking and brought me back to myself.

What if you always believed that you were in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing?

Sit with that for a moment.

Most people spend their entire lives trying to prove they are not messing anything up. They scan for danger, missteps, judgment, and rejection. Their nervous system is on constant alert. Their emotions are loud. Their intuition gets drowned out. And their thoughts rush ahead into the next possible crisis before their body has even finished exhaling.

Living this way feels normal when you've spent years in survival mode. But normal is not the same as wise, peaceful, or healthy.

So let’s explore this idea from a different angle — through the lens of the work I do, the science of the nervous system, the way the brain rewires, and the deeper spiritual truth woven through all of it. Because this simple belief, if practiced with intention, could change the entire architecture of your life.

The Nervous System Behind “Never Feeling in the Right Place”

When someone tells me they feel anxious, overwhelmed, or emotionally reactive, I’m not surprised. Their nervous system has been trained — through past experiences, trauma, stress, and beliefs — to interpret life as a threat.

You start to feel like you must work harder, do more, control more, or anticipate everything so nothing “bad” happens. The mind races. The body tightens. You become hyper-aware of every detail, every emotion, every moment that could go wrong.

Your nervous system is doing its job.
It’s just doing it in a way that costs you peace.

When your system lives in a constant state of “not enough” or “I’m probably doing it wrong,” you lose access to the most important thing you have:

The present moment.
The only place peace exists.
The only place intuition speaks.
The only place healing happens.
The only place life is actually lived.

Now imagine a different baseline. A different assumption. A different belief sitting in the background of your mind and body:

I am in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing. Even when you are sitting in a traffic jam.

This belief signals safety to the nervous system.

And when the body feels safe, anxiety loses its fuel.

How This Belief Rewires the Brain

Here’s where the science fits in.

Your brain filters information based on what you believe to be true. It updates itself through neuroplasticity — which simply means your brain is always changing. Every thought you repeat, every feeling you sit with, every story you tell yourself becomes part of your operating system.

So if your internal belief is:

• “I’m behind”

• “I’m missing something”

• “I’m messing this up”

• “I should be farther along”

Your brain collects evidence to support those ideas. The Reticular Activating System (RAS) screens the world through that lens. It looks for proof that you’re late, wrong, or off track. And it finds it, because it always finds what you tell it to look for.

But when you shift the belief to:

“I am exactly where I’m meant to be.”

Your RAS reorganizes your reality around that assumption.

Your nervous system relaxes.
Your breath deepens.
Your mind stops scanning for danger long enough for clarity to rise.
Your emotional swings soften because the body no longer thinks it’s fighting for survival.

This is why the work I do — somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma release, breathwork, rewiring patterns through neuroplasticity — fits so naturally with this concept.

You’re not teaching your mind to “think positive.”

You’re teaching your entire system to stop living as if life is happening to you and start living as if life is happening with you.

Why Peace Becomes Possible When You Believe You’re in the Right Place

Peace isn’t passive.
Peace isn’t accidental.
Peace is a trained internal state.

When people say they want a peaceful life, what they usually want is a regulated nervous system. They want less noise, less pressure, less emotional whiplash. They want to stop overthinking. They want to stop reacting. They want to feel grounded instead of scattered.

And peace becomes the inevitable outcome when the body no longer thinks it’s off track.

Think about how different your life would feel if this belief settled into your bones:

• You wouldn’t rush.

• You wouldn’t obsess over timelines.

• You wouldn’t compare yourself to anyone else.

• You wouldn’t question your intuition every five minutes.

• You wouldn’t spin in anxiety every time something didn’t go as planned.

You would breathe.
You would listen.
You would sense.
You would respond instead of react.
You would trust that there is something greater guiding you — God, Spirit, the intelligence within your body, the quiet wisdom that rises when you stop forcing everything.

This belief gives you permission to stop battling your own life.

Emotions Become Information, Not Emergencies

Another thing I see with clients:
When they don’t believe they are where they should be, every emotion feels like a threat.

A wave of anxiety becomes a sign that something is wrong.
A moment of sadness feels like failure.
Irritation becomes proof that they’re “not doing enough.”

But emotions are not the enemy. They are signals.

They tell you what needs attention.
They tell you where the old wounds live.
They tell you where the nervous system is holding tension.
They tell you what needs to be released, restored, or rewired.

When you trust that you’re in the right place, you stop fighting your emotions. You listen to them. You work with them. You integrate them instead of judging them.

And this is where the deep transformation begins.

Present Moment Awareness Is the Gateway to Peace

In the work I do, one of the first things I teach clients is how to come back into the present moment. Not through forced stillness, but through somatic awareness — the body’s internal way of orienting to safety.

When you live in the present moment:

• Anxiety decreases because the mind stops predicting danger

• Emotional reactivity softens because the body stops bracing

• Intuition strengthens because the noise quiets

• Your decisions become cleaner and more aligned

• Your relationships feel lighter

• Your body heals faster

• Your stress cycle shortens

• Your peace becomes accessible, not theoretical

And here’s the powerful truth:

Believing you’re in the right place at the right time is one of the quickest ways to return to the present moment.

It anchors you.
It brings your awareness out of the past and out of the future.
It brings you home to yourself.

How Your Life Changes When You Live This Way

Let me paint the picture.

You wake up in the morning and you no longer carry the pressure of “catching up.”
Your breath stays deeper throughout the day.
You make decisions without second-guessing yourself.
Your emotional swings level out.
You stop tolerating chaos.
You move through conversations with more confidence and ease.
You feel supported by something bigger than you.
Your body relaxes.
Your mind clears.
Your heart opens.
Your intuition gets louder.

And the best part?

Life stops feeling like a test you’re constantly trying to pass.

It becomes something you experience, participate in, and co-create with intention.

This is what happens when you regulate the nervous system, release stored trauma, and rewire your beliefs at a deep level — the exact work I do inside The High Level Life Method.

You shift from “What if I’m doing this wrong?”
to “What if I’m exactly where I need to be for what comes next?”

And that shift changes everything.

A Practice You Can Use Today

Here’s something simple you can start with.
When you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or out of sync, pause and ask:

If I trusted I was in the right place right now, how would I breathe?

Then actually breathe that way.

Next, ask:

If I trusted I was doing the right thing in this moment, how would I move?

Then move that way — even if it’s subtle.

Finally:

If I trusted that this moment was part of something bigger unfolding, what emotion would soften first?

Let your body answer.

This is how you retrain your nervous system.
This is how you build emotional stability.
This is how you return to peace.
This is how you start living instead of performing.

Jen's Final Word

Your life opens up the moment you stop trying to outrun it.

Believing that you are in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing is not wishful thinking. It’s a regulated internal state. It’s a spiritual truth. It’s a nervous system recalibration. It’s a shift in identity.

And when you live from that place, everything changes — your relationships, your decisions, your timing, your emotional landscape, your sense of purpose, your connection with God, and the way you carry yourself through the world.

Peace becomes the new baseline.
Presence becomes natural.
Anxiety loses its grip.
And your life stops feeling like a battlefield and starts feeling like holy ground.

If you want help making this your new normal — not just a moment of clarity but a way of being — this is the exact work I do every day.

Your life can feel different.
Your body can feel different.
Your inner world can feel different.

And it all begins with one belief:
You’re already where you’re meant to be.